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TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE PART 7

Admin User - Friday, November 18, 2011

The Moves Like Jagger.......

Are you are stuck somewhere between bedroom boredom and bedroom bliss?  Have your lover’s moves become predictable and boring? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you might well be stuck in a sexual rut (don’t worry it happens to us all at some point).  But the good news is—this is really easily remedied!! 

If you think back to the beginning of your relationship when you literally fancied the pants off your partner, sex with them was an exciting, and lusty voyage of discovery.  Then, somewhere along the line, it became banal…. According to sex guru Tracey Cox the luster of a new relationship begins to fade at around the 6 week mark.  You’ve been at it like rabbits until now, and you’re getting pretty close to having this person all figured out.  This massive shift generally occurs as couples move from nurturing and putting in maximum effort into their sex lives, to simply maintaining their sex lives.  If we really think about it, in those early days we were trying so hard to please and impress that we often made our own needs secondary.  Generally speaking, as time goes by and we get comfortable with that person, we tend to get a little lazy and complacent.  Don’t worry, you’re not alone, Tracey believes we all start out at 100% nurture/effort (well hey--we are trying to make an impression!), to about 80% nurture and 20% maintenance at around six weeks.  Hold on to your knickers, because its a slippery slope from here!!  As time goes by we steadily decline to the point where at 6 years into the relationship it’s more like 0% nurture to 100% maintenance (that 7 year itch theory starting to make a little more sense?).  While maintaining what you once had can be good, one has to admit—it’s not the mind-blowing, earth-shattering romps that you used to have, but all it requires is a little magic in the form of effort and you’ll be back on track before you know it.  

 
So now we’re assuming that you are willing to go the extra mile, (go on, dust the cobwebs off your book of Kamasutra you know you want to), and are keen to try a few new things in the sack.  The downside to this is that broaching this kind of subject with a partner can be an intimidating prospect for some.  So think about it this way; sharing your mind, body and soul with someone sexually is about as intimate as you can get, and given that you’ve already come this far in your relationship, it’s a pretty fair assumption that your lover already loves you regardless.  If you’re feeling somewhat bored, the chances are pretty high that your lover is feeling the same way, and will likely jump at the chance to experience some new and exciting sexual thrills. 

It goes without saying that this can be a delicate subject, and needs to be treated with some diplomacy--the last thing you want is your lover to feel inadequate because they are unable to satisfy you.  Instead of criticizing your partners sexual performance, let them know what you do like.  You can begin the conversation by saying ‘I really love it when you….’ and let the conversation go from there.  Be open and honest about your wants and desires, and your partner will likely voice his or her needs and ideas as well.  Another suggestion is to compile a list together of some new things you would like to try.  Then you each rate the items on the list from hot (things you would love to try), warm (things you might like to try), cool (not so sure about), to cold (you would rather lobotomize yourself with a knitting needle).   Then, have some fun going through the higher ranked items on the list every couple of weeks, you will be amazed at how much fun and excitement it can bring to your sex life!

Getting stuck in a sexual rut happens to even the happiest of couples, and although it can be quite frustrating, and concerning, don’t stress about it!!  With a little effort, a positive attitude and the right kind of conversation, you’ll soon find yourself back in the mood and groovin’ with the mooooves like Jagger!






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE PART 6

Admin User - Monday, November 14, 2011

Have The Lights Gone Out On Your Relationship?

Ok, so we’ve all experienced periods in our relationships where we would rather sit and watch Buffy re-runs than engage in a bit conversation, let alone a little boom boom in the bedroom.  And while there’s a always a chance of catching a rewarding glimpse of Angel, our lack of attention and communication with our current partner can leave one feeling disconnected and distanced from our current mate.  It’s easy to let this become a habit, but be warned, a lack of communication can quickly lead to a lack of intimacy and eventual drifting apart.  Yes, we all have busy lives, and you’re not alone in placing the blame on your hectic schedule, but the reality is, no matter how busy or hectic our lives may be, we must make time for those things which really matter.

Solving this problem is actually pretty easy…..switch off your phone, turn off the flat-screen, and shut the laptop down--the chat-rooms, Facebook and texts will still be there tomorrow.  Now all you have to do is sit down and talk to your lover, it really is that simple.  Communication is one of the keys to any successful relationship, and without it, we lose the closeness and intimacy we once had and romance, passion and sex usually are usually the next to go down the gurgler. Relationships need to be nurtured and built upon, and the simple act of talking about our day with our mates brings us closer together, allowing us to connect with our partners, while subconsciously providing us with a sense security and well-being. Sometimes we just need to have a bitch and a moan about our day, and that’s ok too, as this helps to alleviate tension and stress.  Interestingly, this can also result in a couple communicating much deeper thoughts and emotions, and identifying underlying problems and concerns within that relationship that can evolve into much bigger issues if ignored. When we connect with someone on this level, it actually helps us to grow closer, and solidify our relationship by building much stronger and lasting bonds, and as a result increased intimacy. 

Let’s not confuse intimacy with sex, although it can often lead to sex if you’re lucky!!  True intimacy is more about the connection you have with your partner, rather than just the physical act of sex (but certainly is a perk!).  If sex and romance are lacking in your relationship, you might need to take a little time to reconnect with your partner, so what are you waiting for? Switch of the electronics, and get electric with the one you love!

 






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE PART 5

Lana Scahill - Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Beer Goggles & Booty Calls

Okay so we’ve all donned the old beer goggles on occasion, which is typically followed by morning after remorse and conjecture about where we mislaid our judgment the previous evening.  While the propensity to make poor choices while under the influence is a well known truth, what many of us don’t realize, is the long term effects a night on the sauce can have on our libido.  The good news; a responsible amount of booze can actually make sex a lot of fun!! ---As if we needed a reason to indulge!!  But of course, everything these days comes with a warning label attached, and too much of a good thing is detrimental to both our health and our sex lives. 

For centuries alcohol has been viewed as an aphrodisiac of sorts.  Most of us have heard Shakespeare’s famous line in Macbeth ‘it provokes, and it unprovokes; it provokes the desire, but it takes away the performance.’ It turns out good old Shakespeare was onto something, because numerous studies and decades of research have concluded just that.  The reality is alcohol affects men and women in very different ways.  

For guys, a couple of social drinks can certainly help to relieve shyness, reduce anxiety, and give the poor bloke a little Dutch courage.  This is especially true with strongly inhibited men who are terrified of rejection, or who suffer from performance anxiety.  Whether in a relationship, or out on the town looking for a one night stand - a drink or two will simply help to bring down the barriers. The flip side to this, is that too much of the good stuff can have dire consequences for a guy.  These include impotence, poor performance, and in extreme circumstances-- aggressive tendencies.  On a physiological level though, alcohol consumption, whether acute or chronic, can lead to huge drops in the production of testosterone; given that testosterone is critical for physical arousal, too much alcohol can have disastrous effects on male sexual performance.  Decreased arousal, reduced sensitivity, difficulties achieving an orgasm and diminished intensity are all reasons to avoid over indulging if you have ardent intentions that night!

Women on the other hand, a moderate amount of alcohol can actually increase her arousal and desire.   Studies have shown that acute alcohol consumption in women tends to actually increase levels of testosterone and estradiol, which play a major role in sex drive.   Psychologically, alcohol can reduce inhibitions and allow a woman to feel less guarded and be more willing to express herself sexually; always a good thing!  However, too much tipple can also lead to bad choices which result in the walk of shame the following morning (but hey, no judgment here).   So what does moderate really mean?  They really mean one standard drink, and anything more than one drink is said to have a negative effect on your libido and could potentially lead to sexual dysfunction and reduced sex drive. 

So while a few drinks can certainly break the ice and lower inhibitions, a few too many can lead to very poor judgment and amorous encounter that is less than memorable.  The moral of this story? Drink responsibly, have fun, and order me a champagne while you’re at it!

 






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE PART 4

Lana Scahill - Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Kick The Habit And Ignite Your Sex Life!!

Ok we all have our vices, but when those said vices drive a wedge between you and your partner and inhibit you from having a stellar sex life, it’s time to put the kibosh on them (or at least limit them).  The first thing you can do is butt out!!  Ok, I’m not a smoker, nor have I ever been, so I don’t have first- hand experience about quitting and how difficult it can be.  But I do appreciate cigarettes are very hard to renounce, and I can tell you from a non-smokers perspective (ie-mine),  that snogging a smoker ranks right up there with licking the inside of an ashtray and then snacking on the butts as if they were jelly babies.  Now, l know I don’t need to patronize you by going on about how bad smoking is for you, but let’s take a look at how it might be inadvertently affecting your sex life. 

Guys- next to high blood pressure and diabetes, smoking is one of the top causes of erectile dysfunction.  Smoking blocks the blood flow to the genitals, and well, without going into an anatomy lesson here, we all know that without blood flow the little soldier fails to stand to attention no matter how much attention he gets!  Smokers with high cholesterol are twice as likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction and it can take 12-24 months to restore circulation after having kicked the habit.  Increased levels of cholesterol also lead to plaque development (not to mention heart disease), but narrowed arteries will also reduce blood flow.  I hate to keep banging on about it (no pun intended), but without adequate blood flow Mr Magnificent will never live up to his full potential!

Ladies -just because you don’t need to get it up, doesn’t mean you get off scot free!  A lot of research indicates that women are far more susceptible to the effects of nicotine, and we are much slower at metabolizing it.  Nicotine is a vasoconstrictor, this means it causes your blood vessels to constrict or get smaller, (I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this), reduced blood flow to the genitals results in lower levels of desire, arousal, and you guessed it, lubrication.  There is also evidence to suggest that smoking hardens the blood vessels in the vagina reducing pleasure from intercourse.  It’s even worse if you’re hoping your bedroom escapades will lead to burgeoning life, so if you are trying for a baby, your chances of conceiving drop anywhere from 10-40%.  The more you smoke the longer it will likely take for you to become pregnant. 

Given all of the health implications as a result of smoking,  there’s no better time than the present to kick the habit, because let’s face it, the only thing that should be smokin’ these days is your sex life!






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE PART 3

Lana Scahill - Friday, October 14, 2011

3. Get Your ZZZZZZ's

We’ve all been there before, wandering around bleary eyed and in a perpetual sleep-deprived fog where the only thing you feel like is a few more minutes of shut eye, rather than a romp in the sack.   Scientific evidence is showing it’s now more important than ever to get your recommended 8 hours of sleep per day.  Sleep specialists say that sleep deprived men and women report lower libido’s and are generally less interested in sex (and this goes beyond general depleted energy, and lethargy).  

Sleep apnea is a sleep disorder characterized by disruptions in breathing during sleep, resulting in lower oxygen levels and repeated waking throughout the night.  Several studies have indicated that apnea sufferers have higher rates of sexual dysfunction.  A recent study of women aged 28-64 found that those with sleep apnea were significantly more likely to suffer from loss of libido and sexual dysfunction.  In men, 70 percent of men with the disorder suffered from erectile dysfunction.  This is likely because sleep deprivation (whether you have apnea or not) may inhibit the body’s ability to produce and process testosterone, which is a key factor in libido and sexual desire.  Regardless of whether you suffer from sleep apnea or are up late working,  the less quality sleep we have, the lower our testosterone levels will be, thus making our sex drive suffer. 

So the next time you’re tempted to stay up late watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer re-runs, think of the mind-blowing morning sex you could have if you get your full eight hours of sleep.  After all, you can still dream about Angel!!   ;-)






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVE LIFE.... PART 2

Lana Scahill - Monday, October 10, 2011

2. Eat Well

Ok, so we’ve already talked about the importance of fitness and exercise and the bearing it has on your lust factor, so it goes without saying that the next thing on the list is the importance of a healthy diet.  For hundreds of years people have sought ways to improve their sex lives by eating so-called aphrodisiacs (the Romans favored hippo snouts & hyena eyeballs while traditional Chinese medicine favored rhino horn—ummmm okaaay, ranks right up there with monkey testicles and lambs penis).  Although aphrodisiacs for the most part have been proven to be ineffective, there are several indicators that diet as whole can play a major factor in enhancing your mojo

To begin with, food in all its forms is a fuel.  There are both good fuels and bad fuels; the way that our bodies run is dependent on the type of fuel we put into our bodies.   If we put bad foods into our tanks, one can expect poor performance.  Common sense I know, but its surprising how many of us still fill our gobs with all kinds of junk and wonder why the muffin top is suddenly reaching Michelen Man proportions. In fact, there is very strong research correlating obesity with erectile dysfunction and low testosterone.  According to Dr Ridwan Shabsigh from  Columbia University’s medical school, reducing weight results in an increase of testosterone, and thus an increase in sexual function.  From an erection standpoint (and ladies—guys aren’t the only ones who can get an erection!!), anything that is good for your heart, is good for erection.  Too much saturated fat over time can clog arteries, thus decreasing blood circulation to the genital region.  This not only interferes with the ability to perform, but also with sexual arousal and pleasure.  The flip side to that, too little fat is not good either….you need fat to produce hormones!  So what are the best kinds of foods to improve your sex drive you ask??

Following a heart healthy diet is the best way to start; a diet with lots of fiber, whole grains,  fruits, nuts, veggies, fish oils and other good fats, lean sources of protein and low-fat dairy.  This will help to improve the blood flow to other organs in the body, therefore increasing desire and function.  In her book ‘The Orgasmic Diet’ Marrena Lindberg claims that female sexual dysfunction (or a lagging libido) can in most cases be treated by making a few simple dietary changes.   She claims her program will boost sex drive and aid in weight loss too….a double whammy if you ask me!! 

Author Maryon Stewart, founder of the Women’s Nutritional Advisory Service also agree’s with the principles of 'The Orgasmic Diet' and concurs that their research shows that libido is often one of the first things to go when women are under stress, have just had a baby, or are going through menopause.  In one study, they found that 69 percent of women got their libido back relatively quickly with a healthy diet, supplements and an exercise regime.  Marrena’s top tips? 

  • Increase your fish oil consumption --this increases the levels of neurotransmitter dopamine released by the brain.  Dopamine is the feel-good chemical responsible for emotions of anticipation and desire.  Increased dopamine levels have been incredibly successful at treating sexual dysfunction (in fact there are several clinical trials currently being conducted).  Fish oils also boost circulation, so this helps blood flow to those erogenous zones!  She also recommends a couple of squares of good quality dark chocolate daily (this too has a dopamine response), personally, any diet that actually includes chocolate is a good diet to me! 

 

  • Control Serotonin Levels --cigarettes, coffee, ginseng, ginko and sugary or starchy carbs all give you a serotonin boost.  Serotonin is responsible for enhancing alertness, improves mood and makes you feel cheery.  It also helps regulate appetite, handle stress, and gives you energy, this sounds good right?  While we all love feeling like 'a box of birds' unfortunately too much of the stuff will have the opposite effect on your libido, so in terms of your love life it’s a real passion killer. 

 

  • Increase your testosterone--when we hear of this hormone we tend to think 'man' but the truth of the matter is that women need this hormone too (it’s manufactured by our adrenal glands and the ovaries).  Studies have shown that women with high sex drives have higher levels of testosterone.  The problem is that testosterone gets suppressed by a sex hormone called globulin.  The best way to keep our globulin levels down is to avoid starchy, and sugary carbs, and replace them with non-starchy fruits and veggies, and eat lean protein with every meal I know total kill joy..... 

Does this sound too good to be true? Possibly, but is it worth a shot? Absolutely!  What’s the worst that could happen - you could end up being healthier and feeling great!  At best it will turn you into a smokin' hot sex kitten, so what are you waiting for?






TOP TIPS TO RESUCITATE A LAGGING LOVELIFE

Lana Scahill - Wednesday, October 05, 2011

It’s a slippery slope none of us wants to slide down, but a lack-lustre love life is something we will all likely succumb to at some point in our lives. Whether its boredom, stress, or just a busy day-to-day lifestyle, it’s easy to fall into the rut of collapsing into bed each day with less than amorous intentions. Keeping that spark alive is more important than ever, as neglecting your love life can cause a loss of libido, and create an emotional distance between you and your partner. Keeping intimacy alive in can have a very profound effect on your love life and relationship.

1. Exercise

Ok, so in this day and age, we all know about the benefits of being fit and healthy, but did you know that being physically fit will improve your sex life? Not only will exercise make you look good and feel great, but it will actually help you get more sex!! Studies are showing a direct correlation between inactivity and lack of sexual potency. So if you want to maximize your mojo and get the most out of your sex life, get fit and healthy!

Cardiovascular exercise makes your heart stronger, which improves your circulation throughout your body. Your arousal is dependent on how well blood flows through your body, so the two really go hand in hand. Muscular strength and endurance achieved through weight training will help you to hold those unusual positions you’ve always wanted to try, and flexibility, well that goes without saying. Not to mention that no-one wants to hobble into the office on Monday morning having pulled a hamstring during a little horizontal mambo at the weekend. Yoga is a fantastic way to improving your flexibility, not to mention de-stressing; one of the main reasons why our sex lives suffer in the first place. If yoga isn’t your thing, try stretching after your workouts as this will help improve your flexibility (remember stretching when you haven’t warmed up is a sure-fire way to injure yourself and up your gimp factor!).

Generally the more fit you are, the healthier you are. The healthier you are, the more confident you will be, you will both feel and look better and have loads more energy, all of which are great news for your sex life!! So there's never been a better time to get off that couch and get moving!!

 






A DIFFERENT KIND OF MAGIC

Lana Scahill - Tuesday, September 27, 2011

 

Romance has long been described as a process of bewitchment, but scientists have found that there may be more truth to this than meets the eye.  Have you ever wondered exactly what it is that attracts you to someone?  We all know someone with that certain ‘je ne c’est quoi,’  whether it’s their smile, twinkly eyes or smoking hot bod, there are often more forces at work that what we are consciously aware of. 

Modern research is beginning to shed some light on the mystery surrounding sexual attraction.  Scientists and researchers are now convinced of the importance of chemical signals (known as pheromones) in our mate selection, how we bond with that person and whether we will remain with that person over our lifetime.  Pheromones are the colorless, and odorless chemical signals given off by the body, and are believed to affect behavior in both animals and humans at a sub-conscious level.  Research by biologists Astrid Juette and Professor Karl Grammer from the University of Vienna have found that men's perception of a woman's attractiveness is in fact altered by the chemical signals she sends out. 

Its long been proven that insects such as ants and bee’s use pheromones to trigger an alert if their colony or hive is under attack, as do other various animals to mark their territory, or inform others of the presence of food.  While certain pheromones can serve a range of species specific purposes, sexual hormones play an identical role in all species; they convey sexual excitement and intent to potential mates.  Pheromones are also a key factor in mate selection by portraying the health and genetic makeup of a prospective partner (much like a genetic signature). 

Claus Wedekind from Bern University conducted an experiment with extraordinary results.  He had 44 men wear a t-shirt for a couple of days, so that the t-shirt was enveloped in their scent.  He then asked 49 women to come into the lab and have a sniff of 7 different shirts.  Three of the shirts belonged to men that had a very similar genetic signature to that particular woman, the other three had a very different genetic signature, and one hadn’t been worn by anyone at all.  Interestingly, the women preferred the smell of the shirts worn by men with a different genetic signature to their own.  In fact, many suggested that they reminded them of their boyfriends or partners both past & present.    Ok guys—this not an excuse to leave your smelly gym gear lying around the house!!  

There are some that argue that pheromones are only one ingredient of sexual attraction and only affect physical attraction, as they do not alter a person's perception of an individual's intelligence or self assurance.  While this is true, if the chemistry isn’t there, it’s just not there and there’s nothing you can do about it.  Perhaps this is just Mother Nature’s way of making sure we don’t make babies with someone of a similar gene pool, but then again, it could just be a different kind of magic!  






MISSING MOJO??

Lana Scahill - Wednesday, September 21, 2011

 

Ok, we’ve all had days where we would much rather do the washing up than have a romp between the sheets.  But when one day turns into weeks and months it might be time to get to the root (no pun intended) of the issue.  Have no fear, according to a recent study as many as 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men have or will experience a lagging libido or low sex drive (also known as sexual dysfunction) at some time in their lives.  It’s no wonder with the numerous work,  family & social commitments we have in our lives, coupled with daily stress that our sex lives begin to suffer.  For some people, they may have had a low sexual desire their entire lives, and this could just be the way that they are.  However, for many others it’s a new problem that can be linked to an underlying physical or emotional cause.   Losing that spark that makes you want to engage in, or enjoy sexual activities can be a really alarming and embarrassing problem for an individual. 

For women low desire is one of the most common sexual issues; this may mean not wanting to have sex, masturbate, and/or having few sexual fantasies.  In men, aging has a huge effect on their libido, possibly due to a reduction oftestosterone as they grow older.  Studies have shown that men’s sex drive and erectile are significantly affected by testosterone levels. Either way, it can be really difficult to pinpoint the exact reason why someone’s libido has taken a holiday, but there are several factors one can consider before succumbing to a life of Coronation Street re-runs instead of a smokin’ hot sex life.

Hormones play the largest factor in sex drive—and ironically, contraceptives and hormone replacement therapy are a major culprit in reducing libido.  A recent study on monkey lust showed that female monkeys given a synthetic form of progesterone were far less interested in doing the horizontal mambo.  Estrogen is given to monkeys to get them in the monkey-love mood, but when this was combined with natural forms of progesterone instead of synthetic progesterone sex drive was only moderately affected.  When synthetic progesterone (like the kind found in contraceptives and HRT) was administered, it nearly nuked their sex drive all together.  It’s also pretty normal for women to have a lower sex drive during pregnancy, right after childbirth (duh!!) or during breastfeeding.

Age is another factor; or more to the point menopause.  At the onset of menopause a woman’s estrogen levels (again, back to the hormones!) begin to drop, and in many cases, so does desire.  Accompany that with vaginal dryness, and sex can become a painful and unpleasant experience, but this is nothing a good quality lubricant can’t fix! 

Let’s not forget good old stress as a passion killer; raising children, running a household, and financial or relationship problems.  Depression and anxiety are also likely put a damper on your desire, as are the drugs that are used to treat those disorders.  We all have stress in our lives, unfortunately that’s just the way life is these days, but when its seriously affecting your mojo it might be time to get some counseling with your partner to help lower your stress levels and improve your sex life. 

Last but not least on the list is bedroom boredom!!  Sex with a longtime partner can become predictable, so it’s more important than ever to keep making an effort.  Often foreplay is the first to go by the wayside, but is one of the most important elements to help get you in the mood. 
There are a multitude of things you can do to liven things up in the boudoir; try spicing things up with some super sexy lingerie, or slathering each other with a luxurious massage oil for a sensual massage.  Try changing your sexual routine, there are a plethora of different positions in the ancient book of Kama Sutra so there are no excuses!  You can even incorporate a toy into your lovemaking for added stimulation and a bit of fun.  Whatever you choose to do, if you still have no luck, you don’t have to suffer in silence (be sure to consult your doctor to eliminate any medical issues though).  It is important to remember however, you are not alone, and I’m sure you’ll agree, life is WAY too short to settle for a lack-lustre sex life!!

 

Luv,

Lana xx






One, Two, Three, SQUEEZE!!

Lana Scahill - Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Okay, we’ve all heard the stories about women in far off Asian destinations firing ping-pong balls out of their nether regions, or the importance of new or expectant mothers needing to do certain types of exercises.  Personally, I have no desire to look at a Ping Pong ball in that light, nor do I have any children, but according to Dr Edwin Huang, a gynecologist at Massachusetts General Hospital all women of all ages should be doing their Kegel exercises, and should make them a part of their daily exercise routine for a multiple of reasons.  Don’t know your Kegels from your bagels?  Read on and we’ll try to shed a little light on it for you….

 

Kegels refer to an isometric exercise for our pelvic floor muscles (they also form a part of our core muscles).  They support the bladder, vagina, uterus & rectum.  Kegel exercises (or Kegel’s as they’re referred to) help to tone loose vaginal muscles.  As we age we tend to lose muscle tone and become weaker, and unfortunately, our vagina’s are not exempt from this.  This weakening of the vaginal muscles can lead to a multitude of different issues; including urinary incontinence, and a prolapsed uterus to name just a few.  

Thankfully though there is hope, and by doing a few of these exercises every day you can strengthen those babies up and lead to more pleasurable sex life for both yourself and your partner, as well as reduce urine leakage that is especially common in the later stages of pregnancy, after the birth and later in life.   These little exercises are also particularly important for women whose jobs require heavy lifting, as the straining required can sometimes lead to uterine prolapse (this is when the uterus starts to slip down through the cervix into the vagina).  Yeesh, isn’t it enough that we’re the ones that have to have the babies?!

So, how do we do these little Vajajay aerobics you say??  They’re quite simple really….

 

  1. Firstly, you need to isolate the correct muscles.  Next time you’re off to the ladies, try to stop the flow of urine and bingo you’ve found the right muscles.  Another way is to insert your finger into your vagina and try to squeeze your finger, be sure when you do these that you’re not just squeezing your abs & bottom (an easy mistake to make).  If these exercises are going to be effective, you really need to focus on isolating the right muscles.
  2. If you’re new to these exercises, start slow and build up to them.  Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles and hold for two to four seconds and then relax, repeating this 5-10 times.  When this gets a little easier you can hold them for longer periods of time, do increased repetitions, or graduate to using a set of Ben-Wa balls (think of these as a weight training session for your vagina).  They’re a little set of weighted balls that are inserted and worn much like you would a tampon.  When worn, the little weights jiggle and cause your pelvic floor muscles to contract in order to hold them in place, thereby strengthening your pelvic floor.  Luxury Swedish toy brand Lelo has a set that you can actually change the weight by replacing the balls with heavier/lighter ones.  The beautiful thing about these is that no-one will ever know you’re wearing them!!  

So you see, these little exercises are really quite simple, not to mention important for all of us ladies.  You can do them while waiting for the bus, or standing in line at the supermarket, there’s no excuses, so what are you waiting for?? One, two, three, SQUEEZE!!! 

Luv,

Lana xx                                                                         

 







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